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Letters to myself: From self-criticism to self-love

As a mother of two, navigating the complexities of life often feel like a balancing act. Amidst the joy of raising my children, I previously found myself grappling with an internal battle that had plagued me since childhood: self-love. For years, I struggled to extend the same compassion, grace, and love to myself that I effortlessly bestowed upon others.

Journaling, a tool many touted as a path to self-discovery and affirmation, seemed daunting to me. Each time I attempted to put pen to paper, I was confronted with a reflection of myself that I didn't recognize—a person defined by her mistakes and shortcomings. It was as if I was peering into a mirror that only reflected my flaws, leaving me feeling unworthy of any deep expressions of love.

But as I embarked on my journey of self-discovery, I stumbled upon a transformative concept: self-compassion. It was a revelation—an understanding that I deserved the same love and kindness I readily gave to others. Slowly, I began to unravel the layers of self-criticism and judgment that had clouded my perception for so long.

One pivotal moment came when I was encouraged to write a letter of love to myself. The mere thought of it filled me with dread. How could I possibly muster words of affection for someone I had been so hard on? Yet, as I sat down with pen in hand, something shifted.

With each word that flowed onto the page, I felt a weight lift off my shoulders. I forgave myself for past decisions and embraced my present and future self with tender, compassionate love. It was a cathartic experience—one that allowed me to see myself in a new light, free from the shackles of self-doubt and criticism.

As Valentine's Day approaches, I urge you to embark on your own journey of self-love. Take a few moments to download this printable document and write a letter of love to yourself. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but trust that you deserve every ounce of love and kindness that you give to others.

Make a commitment to read your letter at least once a week, allowing its words to resonate deep within your soul. And when you're ready, repeat the activity, crafting new messages of love and affirmation for yourself.

Remember, the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself. So this Valentine's Day, let's celebrate the beauty of self-love—a love that knows no bounds and holds the power to transform lives.

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Calista Tucker
Calista Tucker
Feb 13

Wow this is powerful. I resonate with your message as someone who grew up in a perfectionist household self-live was measured by something. Confidence was a tool that didn't get developed until my late 20s and mistakes were made along the way in feeling self-love. Going to try this exercise and thank you for sharing your truth.

Dom Gonzales
Dom Gonzales
Feb 13
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I’m so glad it resonated with you! I’ve been finding my way to what self-love looks like for me and finally talking about it has been so helpful. I hope you enjoy the exercise!!

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